Dec. 2010
So, the divorce is final. Time to see what this dating thing is all about. I need to know EVERYTHING! I’m in sales. I’m an analytical thinker, subscribe to Consumer Reports, and believe all answers can be found on the internet. So I needed answers. First stop- my single male friends. Out one night with a group of single guys I start to fire off questions.
- What are the rules?
- Who can initiate communication?
- What makes a good 1-night stand vs. a long-term girlfriend?
- What do guys like to see “down there”?
- Where do you meet the opposite sex?
- How many dates before sex?
The answers vary of man. Wait, I say. You’re making it more confusing. If everyone has a different set of criteria then how do I know what to do and how to act? “Just be you!”, they said. It sounded good in theory, but as my brother “affectionately” says, “You’re not for everyone”. It’s so true.
I did get some consensus on my questions:
- How many dates before sex? Survey says: Any more than 3 dates without sex and that may have been your last date. (Patty wouldn’t be happy!)
- What do men like to see “down there”- answers varied between nothing to some hair. My favorite answer came from King J. “We just want it clean!”
- How do you meet the opposite sex? Most of the guys said they met people “out”. It’s important to note that this group of guys are a few years younger than I am and still into the bar scene. If anyone was online dating they weren’t talking about it in front of their buddies.
Armed with SOME information, I was ready to do some market research of my own.